True confidence is very different from false confidence.

False confidence is that middle ground where you think you're doing okay but you're really just average. It's actually better to be either really great or really terrible than to be stuck in the middle.

• When you're terrible, the pain pushes you to fix things
• When you're average, you stay stuck without realizing it

A big part of false confidence comes from blaming others for your problems. But research shows winners don't think this way - the real reason most people fail is self-sabotage.

The solution? Lead from weakness. Like in the movie 8 Mile, when you openly share your flaws first, nobody can use them against you. You become completely untouchable.

Practice sitting with your uncomfortable weaknesses until you fully own them.