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🔍 How to Stop Beating Yourself Up: The Art of Sense-Making

LIP #238
May 29, 2025

We've all thought it: 'I should have known! I should have acted sooner!'

But here's the truth: most of the time, you didn't have enough information to act sooner.

Try this sense-making exercise:

  1. Pull out a calendar
  2. Map out what happened day by day
  3. Write down what new information arrived each day
  4. Ask honestly: 'With only what I knew that day, could I have acted?'

Usually, you'll discover the information you needed only arrived recently. You didn't fail - you just didn't have the full picture yet.

This is what real grace looks like - not just saying 'forgive yourself,' but actually understanding what you knew and when.

When you're feeling your worst, map just the last 5-10 days. You'll often find lots of new information just arrived, meaning now is the right time to act.

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